GENDER DIFFERENCES MAN WOMAN

the words of NADIA FUSINI: "Of a being we define as a man, a woman, we should then say the how: how is

woman that woman? And how is that man a man? We will find that we are all always shifted, always oblique,...

... always at least partially eccentric with respect to that signifier, to its law. This is the condition of the woman and modern man ”.

 And further on: «How am I a woman, I wonder, I who am a woman? How much do I embody of that significant in the real? The truth that I discover by questioning myself is a painful distance, a fundamental bewilderment ....with respect to that common name of "woman"; and it is the adventure in this bewilderment, or error, that defines me so,
....absolutely decentralized with respect to the crux of my question to myself. And this happens not only to

....me, who am a woman, but I discover the same game of complicity, and strangeness together, in every male who ask about the law that wants to identify him. That he does not abandon himself unconscious to the privilege of his

...identity - still partial, even if it wins universal claims. Because, sooner or later, the day when we will have to give an account of who we are to someone who really asks; and then the anonymous one gender mask will not help. Sexual identity today more than ever is a mirage, and if it is given as complete, it is the effect of a fundamental misrecognition. Because, in truth, there are only experiences in excess or in

defect with respect to the male or female pole of identity. Obedient wives, perfect mothers, strict fathers, authoritarian husbands,

... aggressive males, passive females - who believes in these masks anymore? […] What I discover, in short, if I observe

 carefully the world around me, is that the knowledge of sexual difference, the cut, that is, that belonging to one or the other sex digs into the human body, coincides with what we come to in experience

knowing about our radical, desperate distance from a secure identity based on sex. […] It is not from there that we can draw, modern men and women, an orientation or a destiny. Not even an indication of a task. [...]

We are not animals; and, unlike them, who have their own image inside, to us the image comes from outside, it is a

...  reflection. It is by mirroring each other that we recognize each other. If we are male and female, we will know from the other, is
...what we can do and be starting from this is inscribed today in the horizon of our freedom ". (pp. 8-10)