Traces: An article by Aldo Romano in today's press retrieves a great concept and guiding principle of service work.

 Resilience

 

Traces An article by Aldo Romano in today's press retrieves a great concept and guiding principle of service work:

 The article by Aldo Romano from which this reminiscence of resilience began is here:

 
 

Now there is no doubt, Silvio Berlusconi is endowed with acute resilience.

Which is not a disease, but the ability to regain shape and vigor after the hardest hits.

He is not the only exponent of Italian politics to enjoy that magical quality, but certainly the last fifteen days
gave a spectacular demonstration of its leadership in the sector.

The clear electoral victory in Sicily was entirely his before that of the Casa delle Libertà, as recognized by the less frustrated among defeated opponents. His participation in the Family Day left a partisan twist to an event that wanted to be transversal and problematic for both sides. In short, the Knight Resilient took over the scene. And it can afford to torment its allies with new harassment. Now threatening to pass the baton of command directly to the young outsider Michela Vittoria Brambilla, now throwing the possibility of giving oneself to broad agreements, now fantasizing about a Freedom Party to be created overnight with

those who wanted to stay there.

The usual leader with seven lives, it will be said, capable of finding himself at the head of his troops by defeating all adversities.

 Yet it is not certain that this is good news for the center-right. Because beyond activism actually
miraculous by Berlusconi, for some time little or nothing has been happening in the opposition to the Prodi government.

No sign of properly political vitality, nothing to suggest that in that vast sector of Parliament it is
is working on an idea of ​​the country that is different from that expressed by the center-left majority.

Much propaganda but few ideas on all the great aspects of political life. In economics, the silence of one is evident an alignment that limits itself to repeating the slogan of "less taxes" - however, without being able to boast any sensible ones
reduction of the tax burden in the years in which he governed the country - failing to steer either
marginally the discussion on the need for an opening of Italian society to liberal values ​​and to competition. In foreign policy the brilliant strategy of the center-right is all in the "so much worse, so much better", ready to wait for the umpteenth international slip of Prodi or D'Alema without providing any alternative clue is a more tenacious loyalty to the American ally. On the more generally ideological and cultural level, we are stuck at one anti-communism that over the years has resisted every denial of the world and of the Italian left itself.

And if it weren't for the new leadership of the Catholic Church on the issues of life and the family, not even for Berlusconi there would be no occasion for opportunistic sorties.

In essence, the center-right is replicating the passivity strategy shown by the center-left in the last
legislature. When the opportunity to set up a project for the country while there was opposition was sacrificed the preservation of the political and personal equilibrium on which the coalition was based. The consequences of that choice
they see themselves today in the weariness of government action, in the impression of an executive who resists more for the favor of the external conditions and for their own political and planning virtues. But have an opposition that fails
going beyond propaganda is certainly not good for the government. Just as it does not benefit Italy, which is now everywhere surrounded by countries that have managed to acquire new and more dynamic leaderships. Why the activism of the Knight
he fills with himself every space left free by the absence of real political competition in his field. But the emptiness of ideas is destined to remain so, even when it allows the display of spectacular bouncing skills.

 

In Aldo Romano, Berlusconi is fine the Polo no, in La Stampa May 16, 2007

 

In: http://amalteo.splinder.com/post/12222179/Resilienza

 Resilience

 

 
Even the advertisement for a well-known mattress talks about it:

 

“A top layer of unique temperature sensitive material is laminated onto a polyurethane base ad high resilience of 8 cm. The air flow system between the foam layer and the base allows for additional resilience in depth and ventilation throughout the mattress. "

 

And, even if he would never call it that, Pippo Delbono has "made resilience" to his problems.

With the theater.

Because there are many ways of resilience.

As he tells in "Tales of June: encounter with himself".

Him alone on stage. To tell about oneself with total and even extreme sincerity.

Pippo Delbono

 

What does Resilience mean?

 

When a word is not well known it is better to start from the dictionary.

 

- Ability of a material to withstand sudden impacts without breaking (Lo Zingarelli, Zanichelli, Milan, 1995):



- ability of a material to resist deformation or dynamic breakage, represented by the relationship between the work needed to break a member of this material and the section of the member itself: index, resilience value

 

- ability of a yarn or fabric to recover its original shape after deformation (From Dizionario De Mauro)

 

If we consider this concept in relation to the social sciences, we can say that



“Resilience would correspond to the human capacity to face the adversities of life, overcome them and get out of them reinforced or even transformed ”(Grotberg, 1996).

 

From this point of view, the word is always associated with tension, stress, anxiety, traumatic situations they affect us throughout our life.

 

It is something that corresponds to human nature, but which is not always possible to implement and, even if sometimes it becomes active, it does not always lead to positive situations.

 

This mysterious possibility has an undeniable basis, namely, the evidence that the constituent elements of resilience they are present in every human being and their evolution accompanies the different stages of development or the life cycle of man: it is an intuitive behavior during childhood, then it strengthens up to be active in adolescence,
 later it will be completely incorporated into the proper conduct of adulthood.

 

But it takes education to do it (a facet of the education of feelings? Dear Astime and Maf?).

We need to anchor to solid values.

Even if they are 2000 years old.

Decision in wanting to achieve this educational result. "Soft" and frightened fathers and decision-making mothers like Gods company executives are unlikely to succeed. And it shows.

 

Resilience is more than just the ability to resist destruction while protecting one's self from circumstances difficult.

 

It is also the possibility of reacting positively at the expense of difficulties and the desire to build using strength interior proper of human beings.

 

It is not only surviving at all costs, but also having the ability to use the experience born from difficult situations to build the future.



It is said, it is said, it is said that there are some typical characteristics of resilience:

 

• "insight" or introspection: the ability to examine oneself, ask the difficult questions and answer them sincerely

 

• Independence: the ability to keep a certain distance, physical and emotional, from problems, but without isolating oneself

 

• Interaction: the ability to establish intimate and satisfying relationships with other people

 

• Initiative: the ability to face problems, understand them and be able to control them

 

• Creativity: the ability to create order, beauty and goals starting from chaos and disorder

 

• Joy: disposition of the spirit to cheerfulness, allows us to move away from the focal point of tension, relativize and positivize the events that strike us

 

Even Systemic Theory (“if a subject of the relationship changes, the relations between the subjects of the relationship ”) comes to the conclusion that resilience would be of great help during the therapy process at family, as it is:

 

“The capacity that a system has to resist the changes caused from the outside, to overlap and overcome these crisis, taking advantage of qualitative change and maintaining structural cohesion through the process development "(Hernandez Córdoba, 1997).

 

During a crisis the family transforms its structure, coexists to withstand the storm: it doesn't know how much it can last that energy. She must find internal and external factors that can help her to become less vulnerable of prevent the crisis from increasing in proportion in the beginning, and then overcoming it so that it can deal with one restructuring of the system, which can be strengthened and can transform it into an element useful for change
and positive growth.

 

Resilience is a factor that can be increased during childhood, at different stages of development, for
means of stimulation of the affective, cognitive and behavioral areas, always in accordance with the age and level of understanding of different life situations. The period from birth to adolescence would be the most appropriate to wake up and develop this inner quality that allows you to face adversity.

 

In summary it can be said that resilience is
human capacity adapted to face painful events and to rise from traumatic situations.

 

Principle historically proven in moments of world massacres and man-made genocides.

 

There are also possibilities for the development of resilience that are obtained by acting on personal and social resources, in a state of  latency, in every individual and also in every community.

 

Among these we can name: positive self-esteem, significant emotional ties, natural creativity, good mood,  a social network and belonging, a personal ideology that allows you to make sense of pain, so as to decrease the negative aspect of a situation full of conflicts, allowing the resurgence of alternative solutions in the face of suffering.

 

Resilience can meet social and psychological work at the level of: prevention, rehabilitation, collaboration in education, assistance to families and different social groups, because it does not draw its strength only from the natural conditions of individuals, but it needs outside help and an environment that facilitates is support personal development that leads to learning.
 

The aim of this note is to remind myself first of all (excellent method is to reflect on oneself,
before projecting onto others by oneself) that the practice of resilience is quite comforting.

 

Not decisive, but consoling.

 

Each person has this characteristic, but it depends on each of us that it can be developed, if there is
we grant the possibility to do so, perhaps choosing with care, attention, care and love the people with
to walk.

 

The spirit of resilience is a guiding and "educating" principle that can also be used in posts and in blog comments, where the associative thinking that develops here sometimes generates tensions, information excesses, compulsive anger, aggression, depression, projections.

 

Taking up the golden lineup above:

 

- examine yourself, ask yourself the difficult questions and answer them sincerely So we are in situations of

"Free reports"

keep a certain distance from problems, but without isolating yourself. Here we have already agreed to communicate  and expose us. This must be done with caution. By adopting the "good family man" method (so, to be in tune with the double demonstration last Saturday)

 

 

 

- Interact, also establish intimate relationships with people. Provided they are satisfactory, that is basically

benefits for the psyche. Time is running out. Nobody forces us to stay here. Why hurt us? I already think about it

Muslims ((in the cultural variant "radical losers") since 2001 to harm us: at least here we can say "no,
thanks"

 

 

 

- Facing some problem, trying to understand it, even with the help of the "facets" (true Prisma?),

try to check it. That is to see them, these problems. Like the psychiatrist Hannibal Lecter when, in the novel "The silence of the lambs", he says to Clarice Sterling: “Think ... what is he observing? ….. What are you doing? … You have all the data
in hand ... what does it do? …. He wishes …."

 

 

 

- Be creative. Nobody controls here. Yes sure, you can be assaulted by livid and nasty comments can be it also happens that someone turns their blog friends on you (it happened to me and I have not forgotten and I have proceeded to defend myself). However, with some caution, you can let the thoughts go. You can try to give order, starting from chaos and disorder

 

 

 

- Give space to the "Cheerful spirit" elf. Buffonking, too (true Surferella?). A disposition to cheerfulness,
it allows us to move away from tensions, to relativize and to see positive. “I think positive because I am alive”, but without the infinite cultural sadness of the Newagists who ruminate on the ideology of positive thinking. And they become like this gloomy and sad

 

 

 

The issue of resilience owes a lot to the Romanian psychologist Boris Cyrulnik (son of deportees to Auschwitz who managed to escape from the train to the concentration camps):

 

“There are two key words that will characterize the way of observing and understanding the mystery of those who have over a trauma and, once an adult, concerns the scars of the past

The two strange words that prepare our gaze are "resilience" and "oxymoron".

The term "resilience" has been coined in physics to describe a body's ability to withstand an impact. But such definition placed excessive emphasis on substance.

 

The term was borrowed from the social sciences to indicate «the ability to succeed, to live and develop
positively, in a socially acceptable way, despite the stress or a traumatic event that generally carry the serious risk of a negative outcome "(Vanistendael S., Cles pour devenir: la resilience, 1998).

How to become human despite the twist of fate? These admiring questions have emerged when it was decided to explore the forgotten continent of childhood.

The sweet Remi, in Without Family, posed the problem in very clear words:

 

“I'm a foundling. I thought I had a mother, like all other children ... "

 

Two volumes later, once you get to know street childhood, the exploitation of child labor, the beatings, the theft and illness, Remi earns the right to lead a socially acceptable life in London and ends up with one Neapolitan song that sings the "sweet words" and the "right to love".

 

The principle is exactly the same as adopted by Charles Dickens who had drawn on the theme of suffering and of victory from his unhappy and exploited childhood.

 

"I saw no reason why [...] the dregs of the people were not [...] used for moral purposes, as well as its most end [...] It includes the most beautiful and the ugliest shades of our nature [...] its most vile aspects and part of the more beautiful.".

After reading Leo Tolstoy's Youth, the verse of Aragon always comes to mind: "This is how the
men? " Maksim Gorki's Childhood also describes the same archetypal path. Act I, Desolation: Mine

childhood (1913-1914); act II, reparation: Among the people (1915-1916); Act III, the triumph: My universities (1923).

 

All the popular novels mentioned are centered on a single idea: our sufferings are not in vain, a victory is always possible.

A theme that is raised to a fundamental need, the only hope of the desperate:

 

"If you can see the work of your life destroyed / And without saying a single word, start building again [... j / If you can be

hard without ever getting mad [...] / If you can be brave and never reckless [... J / If you can get victory after the

defeat [...] / You will be a man my son »(Rudyard Kipling).

Pel di carrota, the abused child, regains hope at the end of the book; Hervé Bazin finds peace when his

father finally silences Folcoche; Tarzan, a helpless child in a hostile jungle, ends up becoming

the beloved leader of the most ferocious animals; Zorro and Superman, heroes with a double life, on the one hand common individuals and

on the other, champions of justice; Francois Truffaut and Jean-Luc Lahaye tell the true novel of their childhood

tormented. In "The City of Joy", Dominique Lapierre describes the incredible serenity of the derelict as confirmed

from all the people who took care of street children "

RESILIENCE

"Until we have succeeded in suppressing any of the causes of human despair, we will not have the right to try to suppress the means by which man tries to cleanse himself of despair. "

Antonin Artaud.

I'm not sure what means Artaud was referring to.

Lawful, illegal, both.

But Antonin is sacred and whatever he says makes sense to me.

I try to reveal three or four things that I do, in catatonic-semichomatosis states

(Thank goodness, this is a good time).

1) I reread a eulogy to true lightness, written at the age of 13.

2) I try to distinguish the "false problems". They are the ones who bloody complicate things by creating one indistinct chaos without head or tail.

3) Ludotherapy, at full speed, with films that exacerbate the problem, making it a very small and ridiculous thing.

4) I write on a blog, being careful to reveal all my cocks.

If ever, one day, we will give an account to a universal Judge, among trumpets, angels and tremors, all together, passionately, I don't see why I should now protect an emotional privacy, that circulates and circulates, asking only to go out.

5) I delude myself, considering the illusion a cocoon of desire, a scenario to come, a parallel life directed by a colorful and extravagant director. The biggest problem, in reality, it is when the desire - with force - for any jouissance is broken.

Or it's broken by real things and distant voices.

All of this is worse than in terminal cancer.

6) Human contacts, many, trying to never consider anyone a silent dustbin full of patience. Why, if not someone, problem or not problem, despair or not despair, to that country, sooner or later, he sends you there, aggravating, or definitively resolving the situation. : *

7) Here, if all this still does not work, and the Melancholy persists,

I turn off the light and sleep. Even during the day. Hoping to dream a corner of the Amalfi Coast, perhaps Positano, in the evening, with the lights playing on the cliff, and, below, a very fragrant pizzeria with basil and lemons.

A waiter with a walker's face doesn't keep me waiting.

And I devour a gigantic Margherita with my hands.

 

Renèe Dicichè

in http://diciche.splinder.com/post/14856376